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How to keep your kids having FUN during quarantine

Tallahassee Parents,

We know now is a challenging time and things may change on a daily basis. It is important to educate our kids on what is happening, but at the same time we also need to take their shift their focus too.

What types of activities will keep everyone in your family from going “stir crazy” at home. We have put together a list of ideas to help your family stay sane.

Embrace Nature: Tallahassee has some wonderful parks and trails to hike. The sounds of nature and peace you will experience is very therapeutic. The fresh air is nice on the lungs and it is a great way to have some quiet time to talk with your kids and unplug.

Take away electronics for a day: We took our older son’s phone away for an evening due to poor behavior. Did he suffer, no, not really. He found an old science kit in the closet and immersed himself into his new discovery. Our kids will likely not look for other options of entertainment unless they are pushed, encouraged or have no other choice. Help them break out of the norm! Designate a time to “take a break from all electronics” instead of making it sound like a punishment and see what happens. Remember, that means everyone has to take a break, not just the kids!

Raid the Game Closet: It is a lot of fun to pull out old board games you haven’t played in years. I wanted to clean ours game closet out and clear up space since my kids are 13 & 15 and aren’t interested in most of the old games like Payday, Operation and Sorry. We ended up playing some of these games and had a great time hanging out. Some things never get old!

Teach your kids a trade: There have been many articles circulating that trade schools should come back full force. A lot of young people can make a great living learning trades who might not have interest in attending college after they graduate high school. Teach them to do things around the house or how to build something. You will be amazed how engaged they will get when there aren’t other options. Maybe even pay them like you would if you hired a service person to do the work. My 13 year old is learning how to use Adobe Photoshop at school and modifies my marketing material. He only charges $15/hour!!!

Exercise: I really do not think it is possible to get too much exercise, especially if you are young. Bike rides, play basketball, throw a football or frisbee, walk, exercise in a park, play corn hole. The possibilities are endless if you use a little creativity.

Go old school: No, I don’t mean with punishment, but with games and creativity. Having the internet gives us infinite possibilities. Crafts, find youtube videos on origami, Nerf Wars around the house, hide and go seek, remember the paper football game (have a tournament with your kids), Nerf Basketball hoops are a lot of fun or making paper air planes.

Hang in there, we are all in this together and will come out ok. Reach out to your friends and family for more ideas to help keep the sanity in your household.

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama

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Don’t Let Your Kids Quit On A Negative Experience

Tallahassee Parents,

Kids quit. It is inevitable. Do they quit more now than generations past? Maybe, maybe not. With social media, anything can seem like a more serious world problem than the actual truth.

There are some guidelines you can follow before you let your child just give up. Like all guidelines, there can be exceptions. Keep this in mind before the word “but” enters your brain.

What have they committed to? If your child commits to a team sport and it is not working out for them, should they finish the season. Yes! Sometimes you have to work with a team, whether you choose to or not and that team is often handed to you instead of hand picked. What is the goal, become best friends, win the game, or finish the project? Kids need to learn you have to support your team. This support actually strengthens social relationships and friendships. This is where a lot of parents make a mistake. When kids see others seclude or exclude themselves from social activities, they tend to get ignored or picked on. Kids make up their own opinions regarding others in the social circle like “they must think they are too good for …” which leads to resentment.

Life is hard, push through. If your child is struggling with a new skill in gymnastics or isn’t the sharpest player on the soccer field, then you need to help them overcome this sticking point. Often parents let their child quit stating “this just isn’t their thing.” No one has a “thing!” Skills are learned and developed. Everyone learns at a different rate, some have to work a lot harder and those are usually the ones who become legends. Larry Byrd was not a natural basketball player and Jerry Rice was not born a football player. Their work ethic made them into sport legends. If you child is struggling, get them private lessons, extra coaching and teach them what it takes to become great. Becoming a sports start or academic scholar is not the main goal, teaching them what it takes to be great is!

Know the signs. Parents often look for the easy way out when they don’t want to put the time in their kids activities. We are all guilty of it. Don’t accept the common excuses and read deeper into what they are saying. The number one excuse heard the most is probably ” It’s not fun any more,” which often translates to “the demands are getting harder and I don’t know if I can do it.” Remember, kids are generally not good communicators and their frontal lobes do not fully develop until they are 25 years of age. Your child is not going to explain the true way they are feeling or might be embarrassed to say “I don’t think I can do it.”

Support your child, don’t try to live through them. We see it all the time. Parents trying to live their glory days through their kids and going a little crazy at competitions. Embarrass your kids or rob them of the fun they are having and do not be surprised if they want to quit or stop trying as hard. Kids will sabotage their skills to get back at you.

Don’t Let them quit on a negative experience. If you let your kids quit on a negative experience, then you are letting them make decisions off emotions, not reason. This is a dangerous habit to reinforce and will haunt them the rest of their life. Think about it. You cannot reason with others when they are emotional especially yourself. Why make decisions when you are emotional. Your child does poorly at a competition, gets upset and wants to quit. What do you do? Let them get it out of their system and “get right back on the horse” so to speak. Remember, the most successful people are usually the ones who failed the most. It worked for Thomas Edison and the light bulb!

In conclusion, make sure your children finish what they start. It doesn’t mean they have to play soccer every year, earn their 3rd degree Black Belt or try to become the next Michael Jordan. Finish the season, earn your Black Belt and be the best player or team member you can.

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama

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Self-Defense Does Not Have To Be Hard

Tallahassee Adults,

Can I truly defend myself against…. might be a question a lot of us have in the back of our minds. Especially when you hear about attacks on social media and/or the news.

But being able to defend yourself is not always as simple as “physically you can or you can’t.”

It also has to do with:

  • Your attitude and mindset. Are you willing to do what it takes to survive?
  • Have you pursued any physical self-defense training?
  • Do you actively practice what you have learned to make sure it is instinctive or automatic?
  • What steps do you take to be proactive? A lot of situations could be prevented if people thought with a self-protection mindset.

Attitude: Why is this happening to me or This isn’t going to happen to me? A small change in your thoughts transforms you from a victim to a survivor/fighter. Not everyone has this type of mindset, but it can be taught over time with confidence and knowledge.

Self-Defense Training: There are short courses people can take to increase their knowledge. Are very effective, not so much. Are they better than nothing, certainly. Some people fail to react due to lack of knowledge. Give them a little knowledge and they run with it.

The real challenge or question? Will someone remember how to react once the “stress reflex” kicks in during a real self-defense situation? This is why repetition is so important. It gets programmed into your muscle memory almost making it automatic when needed. One of the more realistic percentages to becoming an expert in anything includes 10,000 hours of practice!

Be Proactive: There is a large group of people who assume things just aren’t going to happen to them. I had a realtor tell me once he never locked his house because he lived far away from everything, although there is no telling how many business cards he hands out a week. Probably not the wisest of comments! Is the outside of your house well lit at night? Do you have a camera doorbell? Do you have at least one free hand when getting into your car?

If you haven’t enrolled in a self-defense class or martial arts program, we encourage you to check it out. Most adults start martial arts with no previous experience which is usually ideal. It is also a great way to increase your flexibility and total fitness level. Striking arts like Taekwondo can be ideal for most adults because you can start seeing progress right away and size is not always a factor.

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama

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Teaching Kids to Win, Lose & Compete

Tallahassee Parents and Coaches,

Teaching kids to win, lose and compete can be a challenge.

Working with kids for over 25 years, our Tiger Rock instructor team has come up with an effective plan.

Just remember, kids are always changing and your approach has to stay with the times. Regardless of what worked when you were a child, might not necessary work with today’s kids. Society is different. However, the overall message is same.

Step 1: Make sure they know what constitutes a true victory. We tell our students improvement is a win. What place you’re in is a result of improvement.

Step 2: Tell kids it is ok to be upset, disappointed or mad if you don’t win or place as high as you would have liked. We want our students to learn to express themselves, not hold in their feelings. It is unhealthy to hide your true thoughts and can lead to bigger challenges down the road.

Step 3: It is not ok to blame others and exercise poor sportsmanship. You cannot control other people’s thoughts and feelings, but you can inspire them by your actions.

Step 4: Be proud of their effort. Most adults have no idea what is going on in a child’s mind. Kids have stress and anxiety that might not seem relevant in our world, but it is huge in theirs. Praise their effort for coming out of their comfort zone and stepping out onto the competition mat.

Step 5: Sometimes we need a little extra motivation when we are intimidated. Most kids want to try new things, but their brain gets in the way sometimes. Unfortunately the “Fight or Flight” reflex kicks in and it is a lot easier to avoid pain than go after pleasure.

Take into these 5 steps and modify them to your child and what you think will work. Having a support system of friends and class mates can also be very beneficial.

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama

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Don’t Expect Your Child To Comprehend Time Restraints

Tallahassee Parents,

Have you ever told your child to be ready in 5 minutes because you need to leave?

I think most of us are guilty of this. How did it work out for you? Probably not too well.

Kids do not have any real concept of time management, if they have ADHD it is even worse. In fact, a lot of adults don’t either. So, how do you teach this concept because it has to be learned sooner or later?

Here are some tips to help you out:

The young mind is still developing. Most people do not realize that the frontal lobe of the brain, which controls emotional expression, problem solving, memory, language, judgement and sexual behaviors, it not fully developed until you are around the age of 25. Keeping this in mind will help you understand why young people do or don’t do certain things.

Don’t use digital clocks. If you want to teach a young person time management skills and have an understanding of how much time they have to complete a task, use an analog clock. Kids need to know how far away the minute hand is from the point of switching activities. They cannot see distant with a digital clock and do not have the experience to know what 5 minutes or 10 minutes feels like. Does anyone fully know, especially if you are caught up in an activity or thought.

Purchase a “Time Timer” type clock: A Time timer or similar clock will either fill up with the color red or have it disappear as time gets near the end. It gives everyone a better understanding that your time is running out and it is easier to comprehend…especially for a young person with or without ADHD.

Have your child stop 5-10 minutes early. Kids are all about the now! They do not see the big picture yet or the benefit activities will have long term. That is why goal setting can be a challenge. Kids don’t see the benefit of sticking with activities and even have trouble telling you what they want for dinner on the way to school. Parents need to understand this and not let them quit activities easily. If your child is into something and you say “ok, stop playing and get ready for soccer practice, martial arts or maybe dance;” do not be surprised if there is a struggle. Kids do not see it as stopping a fun activity to do another one they enjoy, they see it as being taken away from something they are enjoying. There has to be a transition period otherwise you will get resistance and they learn a negative correlation to an activity they once loved.

Give these tips a try and see how they work for you. Remember there is never a one size fits all. Do not hesitate to customize these tips to fit your lifestyle or child’s personality.

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama

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Bully Proof Your Child’s Life

Tallahassee Parents,

Bullying is something we hope our children never have to deal with, however you need to be prepared. Whether your child is a little different based on society’s standards or very popular, no one is excluded depending on the circumstances.

Mostly likely, by now, parents have a pretty good idea of the different types of bullying. Keeping it simple, you have psychological and physical. One is not necessarily worse than the other, it just depends on the circumstances.

Parents often confuse the difference between kids picking on other kids and actual bullying. Kids pick on others and it gets worse in middle school and sometimes high school. Sometimes it is in good fun and goes too far, other times it mostly happens in social groups when one person makes a joke and others jump on the wagon.

Bullying is more consistent attacks where particular victims on sought after. You might relate it to stalking with consistent physical or psychological harm.

Keeping the differences in mind, here are some tips to help you keep your child safe:

Get Your Friends Support: If you know your child is getting picked on and they have a small circle of friends, reach out to their parents and ask for support. Have them talk to their children and encourage them to look after each other. If one is being picked on, ask them to step in and support the victim. A lot of times, bullies will back down when there is other social support.

Learn Self-Defense Skills: Fighting is obviously not the answer and can lead to negative ramifications, however knowing how to protect yourself raises confidence and will often diffuse a situation long term. Bullies look for victims that won’t fight back making them easy prey. You don’t have to be victorious in a physical altercation with a bully, but fighting back will most likely have them second guess the next time they decide to bother you. You will have them second guessing and sometimes thinking “what if I lose this time?”

Self-defense training naturally boosts one’s confidence and fitness level. You can often tell those who have some type of training because they carry themselves much differently physically, mentally and spiritually.

Find Your Child a Mentor: We cannot stress this enough. Sorry parents, you cannot be their mentor, at least not until later in their life. The more mentors the better. There are a lot of resources out there you can find great mentors. Older sibling possibly, relative, a friend’s child, older students in a youth group, coaches, martial art instructor, and there are a few national reach out programs like “Girls Talk” for teenage girls. Kids will often open up more with someone they feel can relate to their situation.

Think of Ways to Highlight Your Child: Sometimes, kids don’t see the good or specialness in others. For example, you might have a special needs child who gets picked on because they look or sound different. If other kids knew their story, more about their condition or some of the hurdles they have jumped over and overcame, they might have a different opinion and overlook the insignificant differences. A lot of hate crimes, bullying, racism and anti-semitism are due to ignorance. Educate others and see what happens, you might be surprised. Be warned, some people are just going to hate and you cannot change them, let them keep it as their problem, don’t make it yours or your child’s.

Be patient and creative while using as many resources as you can. From books, school counselors to martial art instructors, you should find some answers that help. Don’t be afraid to question the status quo and find better solutions if you don’t like the ones you are being offered.

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama.

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Parents, Stop the Burn Out…

Tallahassee Parents,

There is roughly 3 weeks before Spring Break is here, but your kids are already feeling burned out, moving sluggish and lack motivation.

What do you do?

Here are some easy tips to get them motivated and nurture their “second wind”!

DON’T TELL THEM, SHOW THEM: Kids like most of us are very visual. It is difficult to understand time and lack of it without visuals. If you are verbally telling your child to hang in there, Spring Break is almost here or it is only 3 weeks away…mostly likely it is having little effect on their moods.

They need visuals. Have them mark off the days each week with a marker or pen. If you have something special planned, have some pictures displayed on the calendar, in the bathroom or any other place they look frequently.

Mark weekends in green, so they know those aren’t work/school days making your break even closer than you think. Be creative and their moods will change.

HIT THE OTHER SENSES: Spring Break is in 3 weeks, maybe you are going to the beach or the mountains. Have your child get their suitcase out, start packing early and get them excited. Need specific clothes for your Spring Break trip, start getting them now and let them wear them. Build the excitement.

Not going anywhere, just laying low? Plan some fun things to do now and start building the excitement. Maybe you are planning some house projects, get your kids involved. Your kids will be motivated when you get them involved and they feel included.

GET THEIR MENTORS INVOLVED: You might have heard it before, but if you haven’t found your child a mentor or mentors, you are really missing out on some great opportunities. It is not a surprise kids listen to others before they fully listen to their parents. It is not a lack of respect, just a different relationship. Get their martial arts instructor, dance teacher or favorite relative involved. They are a great person to reinforce things you are already saying.

HAVE AN OPEN MIND: Last, have an open mind. If you ask others to help or have discussions with friends, listen. Do not just hear them. Often, we ask others for ideas and then refuse to follow their advice or perspective. Who or what is the problem now? We do not always see the simple solutions from the inside out. Outside sources can be invaluable if you give them a chance.

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama.

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10 Ways to Help Your Child Learn to Love School

Tallahassee Parents,

Not all kids love school as you know. There can be social pressures along with academic pressures that make it difficult for your child to enjoying learning and socializing.

Here are some tips to help with their academic challenges.

  1. Success is the greatest motivator. Recognize, reinforce, and celebrate your child’s successes and progress—especially small victories. Remember, small victories add up to great accomplishments. Don’t overlook the small things, they add up.
  2. Compliment your children for good decisions. It is easy overlook the good things and focus on the areas of improvement. Most likely, your child is already aware of their weak areas and stuck focusing on those. shift their focus to the positive and see what happens!
  3. Provide regular, nutritious, well-balanced meals. A child who is hungry or not receiving the right nutrients is unlikely to be motivated in school. Many people do not put an emphasis on nutrition like they should. It has a lot bigger impact on your mind and body than people really think!
  4. Be certain that your child gets enough rest and sleep. Tired children cannot learn. Even a one-hour deficiency in the amount of sleep a child gets will affect his performance the next day. Sleep allows children to process the previous day’s events, and to consolidate learned and memorized information. In order for a child to have deep, restful sleep, they must go to bed feeling safe, secure, and loved. Avoid conflicts at bedtime. Although they go to bed at a certain time, that does not mean they fall asleep. Dark rooms, cooler temperatures, favorite stuffed animal/blanket and even white noise can be great sleep aids to help them get longer, better sleep.
  5. Work with your child in an effort to improve his organizational, time management, and scheduling skills. Come up with systems and habits to keep their room clean, back pack organized and proper study time. Do not expect them to figure it out on their own. A lot of adults still have not figured it out, why would your child?
  6. Celebrate risk-taking behavior. The willingness to take risks is fundamental to school success and motivation. Make sure they know it is ok to fail as long as you have learned something. The most successful people in the world have failed plenty of times. Reassure them it is part of learning and not to make excuses, just plan to improve each time.
  7. Don’t compare your child unfavorably to his siblings. This builds resentment and anger, not motivation. Everyone is different and has their own abilities and what works for them. Help your child figure out their strengths and how to use them to their advantage.
  8. Show faith in your child and their ability to learn. Although their academic performance may cause you concern, disappointment, and distress, don’t harp on it. Kids look toward their parents for support when they feel they are not getting it anywhere else. Don’t let them down. It will only develop a lack of trust and communication in the relationship.
  9. Take an active (but not intrusive) interest in your child’s hobbies and activities. Show interest in them as a person and their interests, not just school. They need to know that although school is important, so are many other things too.
  10. Be willing and able to explain to your child’s teachers and coaches that their lack of motivation may be the effect of their school failure, not the cause. Sometimes people just need to know that others believe in them and are always going to be there to support them. It is not uncommon for kids to feel like everyone is against them when they are struggling. Reassure them over and over this is not the case. Remember their short term memory is really short and a lot is going on in their heads. You might need to give them this reassurance more than you think is necessary.

Let these 10 steps be a foundation for your child’s support system. The more significant people in their lives following the same plan, the quicker the results. As they say, “It takes a village to raise a child.”

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama.

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You Cannot Out Work Nutrition

Tallahassee Adults,

Most of you are not in your twenties anymore. You cannot eat whatever you want, workout hard and maintain a healthy lifestyle.

But could you ever even when you were in your twenties?

Most adults judge health by body fat percentage, how lean you are, or having muscle tone, but is that accurate?

James Fixx, who spurred the jogging craze with his best-selling books about running and preached the gospel that active people live longer, died of a heart attack while on a solitary jog. He was 52 years old.

Is there a difference between in shape and healthy?

Here are simple tips to stay healthy because it doesn’t have to be complicated!!!

  • Get your 8 hours of sleep. Sleep is much more important than people think. You burn fat and grow muscle while you sleep. Your brain resets and organizes its thoughts and experiences from the previous day. Scientists are now thinking getting your 8 hours cleanses the fluid around the brain and will help reduce the chance of getting Alzheimer’s disease.
  • Train for cardio and strength. Both forms of exercise have their benefits to the body. Targeting both in separate or combination type workouts are important to your health. You don’t have to run long distances or put your body through rigorous cardio workouts to improve your heart. You also don’t need to carry large amounts of muscle or go through hard core strength workouts to improve. Keeping your workouts to 45 minutes or less should be more than sufficient considering your energy levels drop considerably after 45 minutes.
  • Recovery is key! Intense workouts can be fun and motivating, but you must recover to fully get the results you want. Wearing your body down without proper rest/recovery will certainly lead to injuries. Scientists are even linking cancer from long term high intensity training without proper rest and recovery. Not to mention feeling run down. Over working the body can also lead to life threatening conditions like rhabdomyolysis where skeletal muscle breaks down into the blood stream causing possible kidney damage.
  • Drink your water. We all know this, but you have to do it. There are no replacements for water, period! You have to drink it, not flavored, just plain water. 64 ounces a day is ideal.
  • Eliminate the sugar. Sugar is incredible toxic to the body. it effects recovery, takes extra energy to break down and will make it harder to recover from workouts. When you consume sugar and simple sugars from poor carbohydrates like most pasta, chips, and crackers, your body is producing insulin to balance the sugars which leads to excess fat production, up and down energy levels and fatigue.
  • Eat every 3 hours. Eating more often keeps your energy at a more consistent level. One way is to eat 3 small meals that have an equal ratio of protein to carbohydrates like a protein bar or protein shake. Keep you breakfast, lunch and dinner more specific with lean protein sources and green vegetables.

There is an incredible amount of information available regarding nutrition and health and it can be overwhelming to most. It is not that most programs and plans don’t work, they just might not work for you.

Building good habits has to be easy and convenient otherwise they tend not to work long term. Keep these two concepts in mind as you start your journey!

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Bully Proof Your Children

Tallahassee Parents,

Are your children Bully Proof?

Before we go over ways to Bully Proof your children, it is important to know the difference between bullying and kids picking on each other.

Either way, we want to arm your kids with tips to help them get through the struggles of life.

BULLYING is often a consistent attack physically or verbally on another person. The bully usually looks for the same victims on a regular basis. The majority of bulling is verbal as opposed to physical. Unfortunately, the verbal form of bullying tends to be more hurtful long term. Physical bullying usually comes in forms of pushing, tripping, throwing things, but can escalate.

PICKING tends to be more playful and usually is random. Kids might be in a group and pick on each other or sometimes team up to target a particular child in the group. Picking can also be physical, but usually does not have a harmful intent as opposed to bullying. Although “picking” is less severe, it can still be very hurtful mentally and physically.

How do you help your child when they are being bullied?

  • First, remain calm and find out as many details as possible. Make sure your child knows you are proud they spoke up. Most likely they are feeling embarrassed and think there is something wrong with them. Getting emotional in front of them, threatening to call the school, facility or another child’s parent is not going to be a solution. You will only make things worse and your child will probably not want to discuss their troubles/challenges with you in the future.
  • Verbal Bullying is rough. Your child needs to speak up and tell them to “stop.” Easier said than done, right? Roll playing helps if you make it fun and low pressure. Be warned, kids usually do not like role playing exercises, that is why we suggest you make it fun. Do the best you can to keep your emotions and parental claws retracted!
  • See if you can reach out to some of your child’s friends parents. Tell them what is going on and see if their child can keep their eyes/ears open and look out for each other. A lot of times having others step in and stick up for your child will be the most impactful. Bullies thrive on attention from others. If they see their peers laughing when they attack, it makes them want to bully more.
  • Find your child an older mentor, but not necessarily an adult. For example, if your child is in middle school, see if you know any high school kids that would be a good role model and talk with them. Kids need positive, strong mentors for advice, not just parents. Sometimes an older brother or sister can be a great source depending on their relationship with their sibling. Sorry, parents cannot be mentors!
  • If necessary, enroll your child into martial art lessons. Most martial art instructors make great mentors , teach life skills along with self-defense and will even eat lunch with your child or visit their classroom.
  • Last, talk with your child’s teachers and administrators in a “CALM” manner. If you come into the discussion on fire and mad, most likely they are going to focus more on how hard it was to talk with you, instead of a solution. Go into the meeting with questions and ask for suggestions. Let the administrators share their knowledge and get them on your side. The main purpose of the meeting, get them aware of the problem and see what a nice person you are so they want to help you. If you don’t see any results after a meeting or two, then it is ok to show your claws!

Try these tips and see what type of progress you make. Don’t expect an overnight fix, but you should see some results.

Have more questions? Feel free to contact me. My information is below!

If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at bradfantle@gmail.com. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an Optavia Health Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama.

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