Before we can truly discuss how to prevent your kids from quitting, you have to understand the brain’s purpose and the young mind.
One of the brain’s main functions, protect you from anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or might be dangerous. The fight or flight response may also come to mind. Remember, everyone is wired a little different. Some people seem fearless and others more shy or passive. Personalities are often shaped by experiences and how one handle’s them.
You have to teach a child to push through the tough times, complete a project or adventure and then move on. Most likely, it will not be a a natural personality trait. Some kids will need to be pushed more than others, but for the sake of helping your child, let us keep it simple.
Here are a few ideas to help you keep them going, but it does take work on the parents side too!
- Have a goal in mind. In martial arts most want to reach the first level black belt. Gymnastics, maybe it is learn a routine or how to compete in a particular event. You get the point.
- Your goals and your child’s goals need to be different. If you enroll your child in an activity to burn energy, most likely their time is numbered. Why, no real goal.
- You to commit if you want your child to commit, then stick to your guns. Commitment and finishing things through is a habit you must form, not a magic gift you are born with.
- Keep the goal visual and make sure your child knows what they are working toward. Like a lot us, we need to keep our eye on the prize, be pushed, encouraged when morale is low or things get hard.
- You will have to put in a little more effort than you planned. Beware there are going to be sticking points or “hiccups.” You might need to invest in a little coaching help, tutors, private lessons or better equipment. Again, remember, if you aren’t committed than you cannot expect them to be!
When it comes down to it, there is no real magic. Support and commitment matter the most! No quitting on a defeat or negative experience. Making decisions based on emotion rarely turn out well.