Tallahassee Adults and Parents,
It is not uncommon that people of all ages do not want to get in front of others. At one time, it was said that more people were afraid of public speaking than anything else. What many do not realize is the very thing that could help them feel more confident is holding them back.
Thus the phrase “You have to be uncomfortable before you can be comfortable” perfectly describes the learning curve. Most things in life require an adjustment period or a learning curve before we can reach the goals we desire.
If you want to get into better shape, you are most likely going to be really sore when you start working out or craze foods you gave up because they are unhealthy. Fear speaking in front of groups, there is going to be an adjustment, loss of words and unplanned pauses until you get more experieince.
The list could go on, but I am sure you get the point. So how does someone work through these barriers? Through my personal experiences and research, you “why” has to be strong enough to push you through the barriers that might stop you. For example, someone might want to get into better shape, but never make it happen until they have a severe medical condition forcing them to make changes or risk death.
No one wants to let things get out of hand to change so what must happen. Honestly, there are no real secrets and it is going to be difficult. You will constantly fight your brain because it wants to protect you from being “uncomfortable.”
Don’t worry, there is good news. You will build momentum and get stronger mentally the longer you fight for what you want. Will your cravings or thoughts of weakness completely go away? Most likely not, but many build a fear of going back to their old ways and push harder than ever to reach their goals or new formed habits.
Don’t be afraid to get uncomfortable, you can do it. Things will get better, maybe not easier, but doable.
Believe in yourself, because there are a lot of others that believe in you!
If you are interested in contacting Brad Fantle for speaking engagements you may reach him by email at firstname.lastname@example.org. He is a 7th Degree Black Belt with Tiger Rock Martial Arts, has 25 years experience working with children and teaching self-defense, an ADHD Coach and has a BA in Sports & Fitness from the University of Alabama